Reconciliation

July 10th:

Today I had lunch with an old friend I grew up with, but who, two years ago, stopped being my friend for some unknown reason. Let's see, that was sophomore year, so I was fifteen or so - young enough to be very much less mature than I am now, meaning that dealing with friendship problems seemed an impossible task. Well, I had my guesses as to why my friend "unfriended" me, but I wasn't completely sure, as it could have been a number of things. Either way, I don't think I ever asked them why they stopped being my friend until a week ago - but we'll get to that in a second! I tried to reach out a few times after they quit talking to me, but with no response I quickly gave up and left the friendship for dead, moving on in my life without my childhood friend. This made me sad, but mostly annoyed and frustrated because they gave up on me for no apparent reason and didn't even try to explain why they didn't want to be friends anymore!

Well, while on Houseboats I realized that I didn't want to go to college without reconciling, or at least TRYING. I wrote a letter and sent it in the mail when I got home, not really expecting a response. But look, a facebook message! Oh, they DO want to have lunch and talk? Maybe I'd get my answer as to why they stopped being my friend and be able to come to terms/get on friendly terms again!

So I met them for lunch today and when it came down to the reason why they gave up on our friendship, after they explained, it all made sense and I took it graciously. I understood the problem(s) and the other circumstances in their life at the time and that they decided to focus their attentions on the others things - although I DO think dropping a friendship isn't ever ever cool if you don't talk to the person about your issues first. Apparently a couple times during the two years we talked about certain issues we had with each other, but obviously those conversations didn't fix anything, and really they never mentioned their main issue, so there wasn't really anything that I could do.

Lunch went well and by the end we were laughing about TV shows and catching up on the parts of each other's lives we had missed. I don't expect to be close friends or anything with them because we HAVE become very different people, but I'm happy with what I've got: an explanation and a reconciliation.

If you have any of these sorts of mysterious problems with old friends, I encourage you to reach out and try to talk to them - you may not get a response, but you also may mend a little part of your heart that you didn't know was broken the whole time. Keep it classy folks!

Also... if you have been commenting on these blogs, for some reason blogger hasn't been posting them, so I never saw your comment(s). Sorry about that - I THINK I may have fixed the issue, but I'm not 100% sure. Maybe if you leave a comment we can check! :3